Damage: By Words??

So today was an eye opener for me, it was the last of the 3 Pinayism workshops. I’m not allowed to say what happened in the workshop but I’ll tell u that it was an eye opener. It made me think about my word choice and how I use certain words. For example I say BETCH a lot, which is pretty much saying BITCH, when I talk to my friends or when I address my friends. The way I use it or how I think I use it is just for fun not to put anyone down but it’s just kinda like a little tease. But when I think of it there is go connotation when it comes to that word. Pretty much by using that word you are putting your friend down by using that bad word, it could be all fun but in a deeper sense when it comes down to it there is that bad connotation.

This experience also opened my eyes at how I treat my friends. I would joke around with them saying things like you’re a FAILURE or putting them down by saying what ass. I know I meant this as a joke or I say it as second nature but to that person even though they don’t show it I may be hella hurting them. During the activity my eyes where opened and I seen how wrong I was I felt so bad for the things I have done even though I didn’t mean any harm. I feel like I failed as a friend and that I’m not as good as I think I am. I used to think I over look situations but then I see now that I don’t pay attention to my words and actions towards my friends and a lot of what I say is really harsh and may offend them.

Most of what I been sayin has been about my action towards women but it also may apply to how I act towards my male friends. It is not only women that are put down in this way, I mean girls holler at guys and also say eww if an ugly guy passes by. Women also sometimes call men stupid or meat heads. I’m not sure where I am going with this but ima stop wid this topic. Yah first blog so if u wana comment and ask questions or talk about it I would love to lol and I would also love to see ur opinion on this subject =].

Peace. Love. Happiness.

Alwayz and 4ever

L.C.